Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Relationship thoughts on a snowy day

With my schedule quickly filling up with school, work, and social obligations I know that I have got to focus on making time for whats important in my life. Firstly I have scheduled time for all my classes, studying, working out, and weight watchers meeting. Socially I am not to active, I prefer to be a homebody for the most part.

Although I spend the bulk of my free time at home with my husband I have realized that I am not really spending time with him. We are both usually on our laptops or even in different rooms watching our favorite shows. We have even been know to watch the same show but in different rooms. It is not nessesarily on purpose but it happens. So since I have been thinking about it I decided to do something about it.

DATE NIGHT! I personally have never liked the idea of scheduling date time with my husband because to me it seems so forced. I feel the same about obligatory sex (birthday, hotel ect.) I prefer spontaneity. However in a time of necessity I am going to give date night a try. I am going to come home and bath and primp just like I would have before we were married, taking time to make my husband feel special. (I'm a pjs when at home kinda of girl) We will go to dinner or order in (not having to cook is key) and we will watch a movie together (sans laptops, in the same room, possible cuddling)

I think that it is just really important with all the rush of life that we make a conscious effort to spend time together. In the future when my schedule slows down it may not be nessessary to schedule a date night or maybe it might just be so great that we keep it going. The least that we can do is try. PS We have a happy relationship this is more about making it even better.


♥ Dee ♥ said...

Keep in mind, too... men having a different idea of "together". As long as you are in the same room, he is happy.

Women tend to need to "engage" to consider it together time. Men just need to "be".

Rosie said...

I like that idea... I think me and my bf will try that, we spend out whole weekends together and I see him everyday every other week... but we haven't had a date night. I think that's what he was trying to do this weekend and I was blah about it... I think that's exactly what we need.

Fatinah said...

I personally feel the successful marriages are the ones where people take the time to think of the things that you just mentioned in your post. Good marriages don't just happen. They happen because the people in them nurture (I'm pretty sure I spelled that wrong, but hopefully you get the idea) the relationship. Good for you!

totegirl said...

Most excellent idea. The fact that you thought this through is a testament to how much of a priority he is, and that is never a bad thing!

Keep up the great work Jess!

Blooming Orchid said...

I've got a similar goal for Marigold (my DH) and myself. It's hard. Marriage really is another job. Another FT job, at that.

Put it on the calendar and make it happen. Put on some pressed clothes, slap on some lipstick and don't forget to have fun!